Gina Bee Narcissistic Trauma Informed Financial Coach

Helping women during divorce to independence through a trauma informed lens to not only survive but financially thrive!

Statistically divorce is one of the top three most stressful events in life.

The impact this has on your mental health and nervous system is huge and you probably experienced financial abuse too. It seems to go with being in an abusive relationship.  The abuse is so insidious that you hardly notice it at first.

Have you experienced the following?

• Your ex withholding money?
• Do they make all the financial decisions without even consulting you?
• Do you have your own bank account or just a joint account where all your money goes into?
• Do you have a job and your whole salary goes into a joint account?
• Do they make all the decisions regarding investments, savings etc?
• Do you have anything in your sole name?
  
  

If not,  you’re definitely being financially abused though you may not even realise this.  It’s only when you look back that the process is so slow and over time they have total control with the finances!   Also, there are many unanswered questions because you wonder whether you’re doing the right thing at first.  You may feel you’re just existing and are exhausted with this and eventually you come to a point where you have just had enough.

My ex-husband was always away with work and made that an excuse for not helping out more when I questioned it. I later realised it was all excuses to get out of what he didn’t want to do.

To get to that point where you are starting to feel divorce is the only option, you would have gone through many emotions.

You may have tried everything to make the marriage work, maybe stayed for the children to make a stable upbringing and not come from a broken home.

You may have had some therapy along the way wanting to fix the situation in your relationship.

You have now arrived at the stage of divorce because you feel so stuck and unhappy.

Your children may be about to leave home or at university and you realise that this situation isn’t going to get any better.

Your children are leading their own life, you have decided to lead yours too and move on.

You ask yourself all sorts of questions:

• Where will I live?
• Will I have enough money?
• What will happen to the children?
• Will my family support me?
• How will this affect my standard of living?